27 year old, Danish writer and filmmaker Alexandra Kristjansen writes an honest and reflective piece on age experiences from her own life and why she is looking to the dessert of her later years.

Words by Alexandra Kristjansen.

In my family my twin brother Mark and I are the youngest and everyone calls us The Babies. We will be 28 in one week, but we are still The Babies.

I have always been the youngest one anywhere because my mom put me in school early. Through my teens people thought I was older because I have been into dry stuff like literature, French new wave cinema and grammar since a young age.

Once I lied about my age. I lived in Berlin during one of my gap years after high school and I met all these cool people at my German class. They were all in their late 20's and working at magazines and theatres. I thought 19 sounded so young, so I told them I was 24. I also told them that I studied at the Danish film school and that I had my own apartment back home. When I moved back to Copenhagen they asked me if they could come and visit me and I had to make up some excuses

"If I could just skip my youth and go straight to being 70 like them that would be awesome. Then again, that would be jumping straight to dessert. Being old is the price you get for making it through life."

Alexandra Kristjansen.

I had a revelation when I was about 20. I realised I could stop pretending to like going clubbing in the weekends. When you are a teenager that is what is expected of you. But now I could just be honest about how I like to spend Saturday nights at home watching Fellini films. It becomes easier to be a loner.

You have to listen to a lot of crap when you are a woman. You have to listen to even more of it when you are a young woman. I got my first grown up job when I was only 23. With an office and all that. I could see the disappointment in the faces of the clients I had meetings with. They thought they were meeting a real employee and then they got a kid like me. I always made sure to mention during the first couple of minutes that I wasn't an intern.

A couple of years ago parents on the bus stopped referring to me as “the girl" and started calling me "the lady". "Ask the nice lady if you can sit besides her" they now say to their kids. I don't feel very much like a lady. But I like it when my boyfriend Søren calls me a woman. He is 33 and his hair is turning grey. I think he looks so handsome. I imagine us in our 70s listening to Erik Satie and handing each other newspaper sections at the breakfast table.

Most of my heroes are women over 60. I have always been attracted to the wisdom, the calmness and the zero fucks given by older women. I am looking forward to being 70 like Patti Smith and stroll around in my hat and my boots giving advice to young people on how not to take advice from anyone.

"I have always been attracted to the wisdom, the calmness and the zero fucks given by older women. I am looking forward to being 70 like Patti Smith and stroll around in my hat and my boots giving advice to young people on how not to take advice from anyone."

Alexandra Kristjansen.

The other day I watched singer Debbie Harry in conversation with artist Marina Abramovic and I thought what an age! If I could just skip my youth and go straight to being 70 like them that would be awesome. Then again, that would be jumping straight to dessert. Being old is the price you get for making it through life.

Older people are usually more interesting than younger people, because they stopped caring about boring stuff like looking good and becoming famous, and started caring about important stuff like making art and changing the world. Once I heard an interview with author Fay Weldon. When asked about how to keep productive in your 80’s she said (referring to her big beautiful body) “Butter is fuel for the brain." I’m into vegan food, but I appreciate her line of thinking. What a woman.

I recently went back to school to do my Masters in journalism. For the first time in my life I am the older one. It feels good. I just don't care about shit anymore. Sometimes my co­-students ask our professors how to get good grades. It feels so good not to care about unimportant stuff like grades anymore.

My mom told me that she always lies about her age in surveys. I think it is so silly, I mean why would you lie about your age in an anonymous survey about, who knows, media consumption? But she was just like "You know, sometimes I feel like being 61 and other times I feel like being 47. Age is what you feel like in the moment". I love her for saying that.

"You have to listen to a lot of crap when you are a woman. You have to listen to even more of it when you are a young woman. I got my first grown up job when I was only 23. With an office and all that. I could see the disappointment in the faces of the clients I had meetings with. They thought they were meeting a real employee and then they got a kid like me. I always made sure to mention during the first couple of minutes that I wasn't an intern."

Alexandra Kristjansen.

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